You’ve heard all the birth horror stories
or perhaps you have lived your own.
But you know that there has to be a better way to have a baby, Except you’re overwhelmed with information and opinions.
You want someone to tell you that everything is ok and that you can have that positive birth you deserve.
The moment you announce your pregnancy it seems that everyone has an opinion. Or wants to tell you all about their terrible birth. Or maybe you have experienced a birth previously that didn’t go the way you were expecting.
With all this going on, it is completely normal to feel overwhelmed or scared of birth. But you don’t have to go on feeling like this. You can have a truly positive birth. You can have a journey into life as a new mum (or mum to a new baby) that feels calm and connected. Like you are doing things on your own terms.
This is your birth and your baby. Whether this is your first baby or your fifth, your feelings matter.
Your decisions matter.
I’m Kate Vivian, a mum to three gorgeous girls. And honestly, I walked into my first birth with my eyes wide shut. I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
I’d heard all the horror stories and had a blind optimism that I wasn’t going to be one of them. That I could just go with the flow and everything would be ok.
I was wrong. I did end up going with the flow during my first birth, only it wasn’t my flow. It was my midwife’s, my obstetrician’s flow, the hospital’s flow – it was everyone’s flow but mine.
My first birth experience was one that left me reeling, overwhelmed with guilt that I hadn’t given my baby the best start in life. That I had failed her. That if I had prepared differently, perhaps I would have had a different outcome.
My next two more births were completely different. They were incredible, powerful experiences that changed not only the way I viewed birth but the way I began my parenting journey.
I had stepped into my power. I had found the confidence to ask questions and make the best decisions for myself and my baby. My partner also learnt how to be my support person during my labour and birth. He went from not wanting to get in the way during my first birth to being right next to me, providing comfort, support and encouragement. Most importantly, he became my advocate – ensuring my preferences were followed so that I could get on with having my baby.
It was this transformation and understanding that birth really can be incredible that has led me here. A Hypnobirthing Australia practitioner, childbirth educator, and birth and postpartum doula. I want you to have a voice and for your voice to be heard. I want you to have the birth and new mum experience that you want – regardless of circumstances.
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From someone who was super ignorant/ afraid and not ready to deal, it was so nice to walk out of the class feeling confident and ready to go!